Or maybe we should examine the workplace and ask ourselves why it’s detrimental to one’s career to show respect, fair play and teamsmanship? PGB
Exhibit A: Women told not to be too nice
The Wall Street Journal writes about advice that Citigroup provided to women who wanted to succeed in their careers. Laminated cards, distributed to some female Citigroup employees, list some things women do to sabotage their careers. According to the cards, women tend to:
1. Speak too softly and aren’t heard
2. Groom in public, which “deemphasizes…capability.”
3. Sit too demurely, rather than leaning forward at the table in meetings.
4. Speak last in meetings. Early speakers are seen as more assertive and authoritative.
5. Ask permission, while men inform.
6. Apologize too much for every little thing.
7. Smile too often, which can dilute a message.
8. Play too fair.
9. Operate behind the scenes, which enables competitors to take credit for one’s work.
10. Offer a limp handshake.
The WSJ took the position that took “the view that these suggestions were helpful ways for women to do well in finance. ”
The list emanated from a book, “Nice Girls Don’t Get the Corner Office: 101 Mistakes Women Make That Sabotage Their Careers,” by Dr. Lois P. Frankel.
The WSJ quotes her stating the list was taken out of context BUT:
“The women who say they don’t have to do these things are naïve,” Frankel said. “There are different rules for men and women in the workplace. To be successful, you have to figure out the boundaries on the playing field and figure out where to play your game on the edge. All games are won at the edge.”